Monday, May 9, 2011

That little heart beats 146 times per minute

I was writing a baby diary for my experiences.. but it seems like my routine would not permit me be so regular with it. As my husband would say... I understand his point 2 years later since am 2 years younger than him:))
He told me in the beginning that I should rather write a blog, it would be more convenient and easy to maintain. But I wanted to have the traditional writeup !!

Anyways... better late... than never they say...
So, I had my visit to the midwife today. And I got to know they don't do cord blood banking in Sweden yet!. She took my blood sample and turned out am low on iron .. my baby is growing rapidly so she advised to take iron pill every day. Britmari (midwife) also advised to take some child birth education classes ... phew I have been already searching for those!!

And now the most interesting part.... we heard the heart beat!!..oh it was amazing.. she had the complete instrument with the speakers attached. It took her a few seconds before she could find the heart and then it was beating. So fast!! The count came to be 146 beats. And while she was measuring it, my baby kicked which came out as a loud thud in the speakers. And again and again :)

It was a great experience to hear my baby's heart beat :) God bless the child!

Friday, May 9, 2008

Punjabi Wedding Customs

My thoughts and feelings for my 'Chooda' (wedding bangles) and above all my husband inspired me to write the first ever blog of my life. I read and re -read my post and felt like narrating the entire bunch of rituals of a Punjabi wedding. I love each and every aspect of the wedding- from shopping for jewellery and clothes to spending hours for selecting mehandi designs, to finalizing the pattern for invitation card, to making a guest list, to deciding costumes for each and every ceremony and customs, to flower and rangoli decorations, to the traditional wedding songs- simply anything and everything. Comes a wedding in the family and I am all set to look forward to it... my eyeballs dilated enough not to miss even a peep of a custom :)


Being from the state of Punjab, I have a natural and special bonding to the culture and traditions. Marriage in Punjab means- merriment, thrill, fanfare, singing, dancing and lots of excitement. Earlier, marriages used to be fixed by parents. But with changing times and generations, people are becoming acceptable to love marriages. Despite its own rich set of customs, Punjabis now a days have also inculcated various traditions from other cultures like ring ceremony, reception etc.
Being a female, this write up will be dedicated more towards ceremonies performed at the girl's house. I would try to post about the groom's customs one day ;)
Once the families of both the boy and the girl decide upon tying the knot, the real fun starts ..
'Roka'
'Rokna' means to stop. Generally, this is referred in relation to the boy, signifying that the girl's family takes commitment from the boy to marry their daughter and henceafter he would stop his search for his life partner. This ceremony marks the 'yes' from both families. Generally, it takes place in presence of family members and close relatives. The families exchange gifts and sweets and the girl and the boy are announced engaged and are allowed to court.
The wedding date gets fixed.....
Kirtan/Havan/Path

Before commencing with any ritual related to the wedding, it is believed to be auspicious to start in the name of God. So a few days before wedding (generally before sending out invitations to friends and relatives for the marriage) a small ritual is performed in any of the forms - Kirtan ( singing of devotional songs), Havan ( a fire ritual accompanied by chanting of Vedic mantras, in which offerings of ghee, grains etc is made to the fire), or Path ( reading narrations from religious books) is performed. Only family members and close relatives attend it.




Sagan/Chunni

This ceremony traditionally takes place at the groom's house, a day before the wedding. Nowadays, people prefer to do it in banquet halls to accomodate large gatherings and comfortable proceedings. A 'pandit' ( priest) performs 'havan' . It is believed that it drives away bad spirits and brings good luck and purifies the soul and surroundings. The girl's father perform the 'tika' (smearing of saffron or vermilion, mixed with rice grains and flower petals on the boy's forehead) ceremony, followed by serving him some sweet, tradition being 'boondi laddoos'. The girl's family gets beautifully wrapped gifts for the groom, his family and all the relatives.

Chunni (Stole) involves the girl. The girl is made to drape in a beautiful heavy 'chunni' with rich intricate embroidery, generally in pink or red. In some familes, this chunni is passed on from generation to generation as a family heirloom. She is also gifted clothes and jewellery.

Saint

This take place at both bride's and groom's place. Earlier this ceremony used to take place 2-3 days before the wedding. But now a days this happens on the same day of marriage. Once this is over, the bride(/groom) is not supposed to step outside the house. At bride's place, this starts with some pooja(prayer) followed by smearing of ubtan (paste of turmeric, saffron) on face, arms and other body parts of bride. It is believed that it will make her beautiful and charming and bring glow to her face.

Khichdi is prepared with the ingredients that come from the groom's place and the girl eats it. The rest is served to her unmarried sisters and friends. They say that those who eat that shall get married soon.

After this the bride is not supposed to sit on bed.

Ghadoli

After Saint, the relatives (specially sister in law and sisters) fetch some water in a pot(ghadoli) from a temple. The sisters and sisters in law also get a token/gift for this.The bride bathes with this water before getting ready for the wedding.

Chooda/kaleere





This is my favorite ceremony of all. Bride's mother's brother get chooda (a set of red-white bangles).Traditionally this used to be made of ivory but now generally plastic bangles are used. Since the bride is not supposed to see them before wearing, they are dipped in unpasteurized milk and finally her uncles make her wear these bangles.



Apart from these, a steel bangle is worn in each hand to which the bride's mother, friends, and sisters tie kaleere

After this the bride gets ready for the wedding.

I think I would close this here. This completes the prewedding ceremonies. Would write more about the wedding customs sometime later.




Thursday, May 8, 2008

My Chooda ( Punjabi, An Indian culture, Wedding bangles)







'Chooda' is an integral part of Punjabi wedding. For me its the favorite of all pre-wedding ceremonies. I can still remember each and every moment of it.


This ceremony is performed on the day of wedding. The bride to be takes bath with water brought from a temple and sits for this ceremony. A 'puja' is performed by a priest. Chooda is a set of red/maroon and cream bangles with rich and intricate work on it. This is brought by the girl's maternal uncle and aunt. The interesting part is that the girl is not supposed to see it before wearing. So it is kept covered with unboiled ('kachcha') milk in a pan. Originally, these bangles were made of ivory, but nowadays ivory has been replaced by plastic or lac. The girl's uncle makes her wear them. Once she wears them, everyone present touches it and gives her wishes for a successful married life.


Traditionally, the girl .is supposed to wear it for 1.25 months or 1.25 years. A span of 1.25 is considered auspicious in almost all Punjabi traditions. But if the lady gets pregnant while she is wearing Chooda, she is required to get it off before delivery of the baby. Gradually, people have become less stringent and girls wear it as long as they want.




Its been part of me since past 1 year and 3 months and now the time has come to get apart from it. This was one thing which always made me feel like a new bride throughout the entire span of my first year of marriage. I admit I enjoyed the gaze of ladies around in the market -appreciative of its beauty at one time and jealous (yes, I could see that) at other. I loved flaunting it. Consciously, unconsciously I have compared it with any newly wed bride's that I encountered. For me, mine was always the best :) Am sure that would be the feeling with everyone of those. I have spent long looking at the amazing patterns formed by the light reflected through the stones embedded in the bangles.


But now, the time has come to get it off. The ceremony is known as 'barhaana' (move forward) in Punjabi. Its considered inauspicious to say 'utaarana' (remove). Its exactly 10 days to go today. And the very thought of going on without it saddens me.


The 'barhaana' ceremony is generally not as elaborate as the one of wearing it. On an auspicious day ( generally the priest is asked for an appropriate date), the girl wears new clothes which are supposed to be given to her by her mother. A set of clothes is also gifted to the husband and mother in law by the girl's parents. An elder lady of the family puts 'gur' (jaggery) and ' chawal' (rice) in the girl's lap. These are supposed to be cooked and distributed to the relatives, the next day of the ceremony. Then the lady take off the bangles from the girl's wrists and replaces them with pink/red glass bangles and a gold bangle. Then 'waarna' ( a gesture in which some money is revolved around the head and given to a poor. This is meant to keep all bad omen away) is performed for the girl. The bangles are then covered with a piece of red cloth and either given to a priest in temple or they are made to flow in a river (' jal parwah')